The Limp

Over the past few weeks, I started having pain in one of my legs that basically made me feel as is if my leg was going paralyzed.  I would be walking and all of a sudden my leg would tense up then it would literally feel as though I was dragging it and began limping, barely making it back home.

But, how often are we limping in our relationships, employment and health.  I find it is so easy for us to identify what we can visibly see in others. But very seldom do we allow ourselves to see our own personal limp.

“The Limp”……….…of Abuse

“The Limp”………….of low self-esteem

“The Limp”………….of failed relationships

“The Limp” …………of fear and anxiety

“The Limp”………….of sickness/stress

“The Limp”………….of obesity

Unfortunately, with these “Limps” and others they began to drag us down and paralyze our purpose and future. As you begin to truthfully look at the hidden limps in your life don’t be afraid of confronting them one by one to become the Unapologetically Woman that you are.

So kick the Limp!

Desiree

AKA Lady Des

Woman, Who Should Validate You?

For years, I struggled with trying to please people.  I was always hoping to do or say things "just the right way."   As a result, I became performance driven.  No matter what I did, I constantly pictured certain people in my mind as if I needed their approval for who I was or what I was attempting to do. What pressure I put myself under!  Notice, I said "I put myself under". 

In the process, I had given others the authority to toy with my life.  I could not blame them for disagreeing with me or just ignoring all my hard work to please them because they never asked to be put in that position in the first place.

I remember the times I shared information which was really important to me with certain individuals.  I had hoped they would validate me and rejoice over the news I was sharing.  You can imagine my disappointment at those times when they did have anything to say or worse, they switched to another conversation!  Their lack of response left me wondering, “did I say the wrong thing?”  Or, “Should I have said something different?"  The last straw came the day I shared some news with a friend about a growth spurt.  When she just sat there on the phone as if I had not said anything, I was heartbroken.  I will always remember how my baby, who was sitting on my lap, reached up and put her hands over my mouth as if gently saying "Enough".

After I ended that call, I was upset with my friend because of her lack of response.  Then I felt ashamed for sharing in the first place.  I prayed about it and said to myself "This is over.  I am taking back the authority I have given to anyone over my life to VALIDATE me". I decided then that no one has the power to tell me  when to get up, sit down, sing, talk, eat, sleep, how to raise my children, be a wife to my husband, or what I should be doing with my life right now.  I no longer needed anybody to tell me "I'm Okay."

I realized that there is no "Right Way" to ever please ANYBODY!

Woman no one can VALIDATE who you are.  All they can do is either confirm what the Lord says about you or try and tear down what He has said concerning you. 

Let this be the day, that you begin taking back the authority that you have given to people in your life—be they people who you are in close relationship with, people in your workplace, in your church or even your neighbors.   The day is over when you need someone to say you are ready to XY&Z. You fill in the blank.  Don't let another day pass you by when you have to depend on someone else's opinion about YOU!

Don't say you can't do it, because you can.  You were the one who gave them the authority, anyway.

So, the next time you feel like calling ________ or emailing______ or running by ______ home to share something that you are excited about, check your motive. Consider why you are seeking their opinion or feedback.  Girl, you've got it going on.  Why worry about what others have to say?